six ways to make people like you

             “Six ways to make people like you”

 Rule1: Become genuinely interested in other people.

Reflection:  If you would do this by becoming genuinely interested in others I’m pretty sure you will be accepted anywhere you go. If you do that than you don’t have to worry anymore about making friends in two years or more when you can get new friends in just two months it’s that easy. It’s best if you ask questions to others about what they like to do nothing about you make sure to keep conversation clear and simple.

“Experts on romance say for a happy marriage there has to be more than a passionate love. For a lasting union, they insist, there must be a genuine liking for each other. Which in my book, it’s a good definition for friendship.

I think that this quote means that instead of talking about just love for each other have the time to actually communicate with that partner of yours, because without communication its like you would hardly know who that person is , someone told me communication is key in relationships which is pretty true. You don’t want to just talk about yourself talk about them and if they like it then that’s all that matters to them.

Rule:2  Smile

1)”Actions Speak Louder than Words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”

2)”You don’t feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile.”

3)”It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends.”

Reflection: I think by those quotes it means that Action does really speak louder than words because, it’s like me saying I’m going to do my best for this class next thing you know your slacking it again all you do is talk about what your going to do but why not do that make an action and do your best for yourself. If you’re having a bad day don’t forget to smile because that will just bring you down, if your hurt after a breakup just smile so he/she won’t get to you, and if you don’t want to smile why not make people smile.

“Don’t cry because it`s over. Smile because it happened. –Dr. Seuss

I think this quote is saying that just because, something happened to you which was very tragic don’t bring yourself down and just smile the pain away, because someone recently told me don’t cry because when you cry your telling that person that hurt you happy just smile at them and they won’t bother again.

Rule 3:  Remember Names

1. “A man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

2.”If you don’t remember names, you are headed for trouble.”

Reflection: Everyone of course has a name; to me my name is important it tells me who are calling me by my name instead of another, It’s important to know your name good once you start to get older I learned to say my name when I was about 3 or so, it’s important to many people. It’s good to know what your friends names are its sad how people don’t know my name when they ask for stuff it’s like they call me by another name when I know there’s. If you don’t know any friend’s names and they know yours you’re getting into some trouble and might lose them as a friend or simply say I forgot your name I’m sorry what was it, instead of saying ay girl ay boy.

“At my age the only problem is with remembering names. When I call everyone darling, it has damn all to do with passionately adoring them, but I know I’m safe calling them that. Although, of course, I adore them too.”

I think this quote means that am not just forgetting their names because I don’t like the person I just have so much in my head. I only remember the ones that I love or like known since I was very little. Yet I call some girl darling or thanks doll, instead of their name.

  How to remember names   

 1. Trust yourself into remember those names

2.     See their faces easy to identify   3 Use sound tricks by repeating     the name over and over

4 Tell them if you pronounced it correctly   5.See the spelling visually 
                                                 6.Write it down

7. Keep recorded on social media or so

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

1. “If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.”

2. “Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his problems than he is in you and your problems.

Reflection: I think these quotes mean that if your already a good listener with that one person you talk to , you sure should be a good conversationalist because, by then you already know how they are with you and you might know everything about them so it makes it easier for you to talk to them. This other quote means that if you see the guy that you like is only talking about his life about his problems he just needs someone to talk about them but why start like that he should be listening to your problems or asking how was your  day today, I don’t like selfish people who just thinks about themselves because that tells you he won’t put you first hell put himself then you second place.

“The opposite of talking isn’t listening. The opposite of talking is waiting.”

I think this quote means that you need to hear the silence of your mouth half of the time and let your partner answer your questions don’t talk about yourself all the time only when they ask.

How to active Listening!
1. stay focused, be patient
2. really listen
3. Allow of periods of silence
4. From time to time reapeat the persons words in your head
5. Understand the emotions behind the words



Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man’s interest

“The royal road to a man’s heart is to talk to him about things he treasures most.”

      Reflection: I think this quote means that if you want to start a serious relationship with a man you have to not just talk about yourself all the time actually never talk about yourself only if he asks you then go ahead but other than that no. I also think its best if you know what he likes first do you could continue to talk about the things that he treasures it will make him feel like you’re the perfect girl for talking about this. You might even do research on the stuff he treasures or likes a lot you will be more of just friends.

“The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.”

     I think this quote means that to be interested in others treasures and don’t  talk about yourself to much.

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely

“The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.”

“Helping people feel important and appreciate works magic.”

I think these quotes mean that Its always kind and very sweet if someone mostly cared about you instead of themselves 24 7. To me having to make someone feel important is that I do many good things for them on their birthdays hang out with them and usually just talk about them even they have problems or so.

1. Make a note of the important events in her life and ask her how the events went.
2. Give them time .
3. Praise her in front of other people.
4. In a group setting, ask her to tell her favorite story.
5. If she’s telling a story to a group and she gets cut off for some reason, be the first person to ask her to continue telling it.
6. Ignore their tiredness. Nobody wants to be told that they have dark rings under their eyes or that they look like they just woke up.
7. After meeting someone new, follow up the next day with an email or handwritten note.
8. When you first call her/him on the phone, ask if it’s a good time for them to talk.
9. If, while talking on the phone, you hear something going on in the background, ask her if she needs to attend to it.
10. Don’t multi-task while you’re on the phone. She’ll be able to tell.
11. Send her a link that you think would interest her.
12. Write her a thank-you note.
13. Connect her with someone else you know who might be able to help her.
14. Wait for a full second or two before replying to something she says. This shows that your response is a thoughtful one.
15. Don’t play with your cell phone while you’re with her. At the very least, put your phone on the table with the screen facing down.
16. If you’re working at your laptop when she comes to talk to you, close your laptop. If you can’t do that for some reason, at least make it clear that she has your undivided attention.
17. Buy her a gift for no apparent reason.
18. Write a blog post and dedicate it to her.
19. When she’s/hes explaining her problem to you, listen intently without offering any solutions or advice.
20. Never tell her/him that she “shouldn’t feel that way.” This invalidates her/his feelings.
21. Give her a big smile when you see her. Show her that her presence makes your day.
22. Tell her “Good job!” when she/he does something well.
23. Tell her you’re proud of her/him.
24. Ask her/him to teach you something.
25. Remember the names of the people close to her or him.

Reflection:

I now know that I shouldn’t even be talking about myself all the time when I’m with someone I should just talk about what they like or love. To me I feel selfish for not knowing that, but now I could change And be a better conversationist  to others. These 6 ways are actually pretty good advice to make people like you for you, and if they don’t like that then now you know they aren’t the right people for you.